Confidence & Loving YOURSELF :)

Hey all!!!

So, I decided that video blogging is SO MUCH FUN!!! And I want to do more of it! I’ve decided to take all of your questions that you’ve asked & I’ve been jotting them down & I want to answer all of them or at least most of them! There will be days that I answer 20 questions and days that I answer 1! Just depends on the time I have, how long it takes to answer each question, & what all needs to be said! I think this will be so fun!! I want to answer ANYTHING you guys have to ask! Whether it’s about weight loss, relationships, The Biggest Loser, life, love, friends, family…whatever it is! Just ask away & I will keep the videos coming!!

Today’s question is coming from twitter & it’s just ONE question! I think it’s very important to touch on it. The question was as follows:

“Advice on gaining confidence to find love post-weight loss? Losing the weight doesn’t solve all the “tough stuff” in life. I thought losing the weight would help me find a guy, but I’ve learned the weight had nothing to do with it.”

I answer how I feel about this situation in the video to watch it & let me know what you think!! REMEMBER that YOUUUU have to love YOU first & foremost. You won’t allow anyone else to fully love you if you don’t first. Also remember that some of the biggest struggles in life start & END with your mind! Change your mind today & your life will be different! Check the video out & let me know what you think!!! Love you guys so much! I’ll be making another video ASAP! :) Have a FABULOUS, HEALTHY, FUN weekend!!!!!


Courtney :)


  1. randeye says:

    You are seriously amazing! I’m going to watch this video whenever I need a reminder that I need to love myself before I can expect anyone to love me fully. Your parents must be so proud of the daughter they raised. Even watching you on The Biggest Loser, I could tell that you were an amazing person. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again, you are my favorite BL contestant ever. No one has been able to inspire me as much as you have. I’m down 46 pounds and still going. Thank your for continuing to share your journey with us!!

    • You have no idea what all of your kind words mean to me! Thank you for your love & support. Please keep reading & watching & I promise I will keep being me & hopefully we can inspire each other throughout these amazing journeys we are on!! Congrats to you and all of your success, darling! xoxo

  2. Thanks for the great video blog.

  3. rascalsk89 says:

    You inspire me daily! I’m down 30lbs! Every night on the treadmill I say to myself “we’re all in this together!” It helps a ton knowing that you’ve done this and so can!!! :) Love you!!<3

  4. At the end of the day… know who you are and like it! Thanks for the great blog! Best of luck to you!

  5. Great video Courtney :) I’m on a health journey as well, and let me just add that on top of everything you said, I really started loving myself when I stopped caring about what others thought of me! All throughout high school I was taught to think that I wasn’t pretty and that I wouldn’t find a guy and this and that because I was overweight. Then I realized there was so much more to me than my looks. My body does not define who I am, whatever size it may be! I am a good person, I have good friends, a great family, and I have so much love to offer. People are always going to be judging you, whether you’re fat, skinny, tall, short, black or white. So you really just have to stop caring! You have to determine whether you are happy with yourself and your life; and if you are, then who cares what others think or say about you? You can’t please everyone and the only person you should care about pleasing is yourself. You are your number one priority.

    I also wanted to say that it would be great if you could go through some of the workouts you did on your own as well as at the ranch. Maybe some core exercises that you found to be really great? Maybe you could do a tutorial type video where you take us step-by-step through the exercise. Just something fun to throw in there once you’re fully recovered and back in motion :)

    • Thanks for your great feedback!!! I just wrote your questions down & will try to touch upon them in the next video!!! Thanks again for being supportive and best of luck to you in all you do!! xoxoxo

  6. So glad that you’re vlogging (video blogging)! I was hoping you would make this a regular thing!

    Keep ‘em coming, Courtney! Can’t wait to watch your next video – your advice is so spot-on!!

    Bravo! :)

  7. Debbie in San Diego says:

    I just have 3 words…..You are Amazing!!

    • So are you darlin!! Soooo are you!! AND you’re from San Diego, which makes you even more amazing!! Love it there…it’s gorgeous! :) Wishing only the best for you!

  8. Cindy Superville says:

    That was the hardest for me, loving myself. Thanks Court. Your wonderfully blessed :)

  9. Courtney – you are truly an inspiration to everyone. Keep up the great work. Love reading your blog and hearing about your life transformation.

  10. Well said Courtney, change your mind and everything else will follow. I’m down 176 lbs and on my way to my 200lb goal. I know it’s possible because I belive I can do it. Confidence is everything.

    • You are SOOOOOOOOOOOO right!!!! Confidence & having a good attitude has gotten you where you are right now, for sure!! So proud of you! Congrats on the amazing weight loss and most importantly LIFE CHANGE so far!! It’s great to continue to better yourself daily through thick & thin!! Praying for you!!

  11. What a beautiful message delivered from such a beautiful woman both inside and OUT! I’ve struggled for years with self-esteem and still do. My weight fluctuated up and down throughout my entire life. It’s a battle everyday with myself. My closest friends always tell me “You are your worst critic!” So seeing this video and listening to the sounds of Pink’s F****** Perfect is giving me a major boost in my spirits to uplift and love ME! I thank you for this, and continue keep those of us encouraged.

    • Thank you for being so sweet, Kia!! You are beautiful no matter what & you have to know that!! Tell yourself that daily! Also…I LOOOVE that Pink song! One of my absolute favs!!! Thanks for reading & watching!!! You ROCK! xoxoxo

  12. I’m so glad you started blogging! My BF and I were rooting for you all last season, we think you are absolutely amazing! I have some really great recipes on my blog that area really easy to make and very nutritious, feel free to browse, I would be honored :)

  13. Remoteingenuity says:

    You amaze me. Seriously. There have been so many times in my life when I’ve sat down and truly wondered if there was something wrong with me that made people so adverse to caring for me. I realized years later that the problem was with my attitude towards myself. That being said, there is always something positive that can come of looking at yourself in the beginning of each day and simply telling yourself that you love you. You have come so far and you inspire me to be so much more than I am now. Thank you!

  14. Hey Courtney YOU ROCK! You guys totally inspired me to lose weight and I’m down 60 pounds…so proud of myself. You should check out my blog.

    When I started my blog I just opened up and it was the best thing I ever did. I’d love to meet you and the BL11 crew someday because you all truly inspired me :)

  15. I loved you’re Blog, I have so much respect for you,
    you inspire so many people, I thank God that with W. W.
    I have lost 50 Lb and am at goal. I did weight over 300
    lb in 1980 lost 100 lb 1st year 60 the following year. Kept
    it off until 3 yr ago, gaining 50 lb. I joined Weighter Watchers
    two years ago and am now A lifetime member and plan on staying
    at goal. W. W. does work!! Keep up the good work everyone it
    can be done as Courtney and all the Biggest Losers have proved. I can,t wait until this season’s Biggest Loser starts, my daughter
    Carolyn comes over every Tuesday and we watch it together and stays
    the nite It’s a great mom an daughter nite!

  16. Elizabeth says:

    Hey Courtney,

    Do you have any advice about power bars/protein bars? I have tried Lunabars, Clif bars, Zone bars and Larabars. Are any of these good for helping lose weight? If I eat one instead of a dessert, will that help me lose weight? Or do they have too many carbs/sugar to be healthy? I’m confused. Thanks for any input.

  17. Such wonderful advice! What an awesome video – very inspiring!! Your happiness and confidence just radiates from you. I look forward to watching your videos in the future :-)

  18. I love this video! I have a wonderful husband and he loves me for me, but I know that sometimes I push him away because I don’t have enough love for myself. We’re working on it together but at the end of the day its about me loving myself and knowing that I am worthy and deserving of his love. :)

  19. Hey Courtney – seeing you last season saying to believe in yourself has made me believe in myself too. LIke you said, I made a decision a while back to love myself no matter what. Since 2008 I have managed to lose 60lbs on my own (slowly but it still counts right?) and have gone from 320lbs to 260lbs. Yesterday I auditioned for BL in Detroit with Brittany. I didnt get a call back. What do I need to do to turn my disappointment into motivation? I want to finish this whether that means getting on the show or not. I need help!!

  20. Hi Courtney!

    I’m sitting here, with tears in my eyes from your amazing message. I’m not there yet…..but I hope to get there soon. I can’t describe to you what an inspiration you are to me…to millions. Thank you for taking the time to give back.

  21. Courtney, I have a huge question for you. I have lost 100 pounds and for the past year moved NO WHERE in all my efforts with weight loss. Its felt more like a yo-yo then even maintaining. I am at a point where I can start over again and I am seeking therapy to help me sort through the things that are holding me back in my head about myself. How do you recommenced “starting over” when you have done it so many times already? After watching your v-blog about loving yourself I really realized its something I am not just going to work on but is holding me back (even married) from making goal. How did you start fresh after you were down for a bit?

  22. thank you for posting this! I was just thinking to myself that I need to surround myself more with others who are seriously about the ins-and-outs of weight loss and trying to live healthy. This is exactly the help I was looking for!

  23. Hi cute Courtney, I just love you! I’ve said it before and I’m sure I’ll say it again, but you are so great and awesome! I can never say enough good about you! Not only because of the incredible inspiration you are to so many people because of your weight loss, but also because of your constant kindness and always positive attitude. I have a couple questions I would love if you would answer in a future post/video:

    *What was the moment that made you change your mind? I know you said you changed your mind and believed in yourself on your 21st birthday, but why then? Why did you want to change? Did you try dieting in the past or were you just eating unconsciously and not realizing what you were doing to yourself?

    *What have you done since you graduated from high school regarding school and work? You’ve said something about an apartment before, were you going to school somewhere? Far or close to home? Major? Your family owns a DQ, have you always and do you still work there? Future plans?

  24. Courtney, you look amazing! I am so proud of you, and think of you as a great inspiration in my own weight loss journey.

    I was wondering if you could possibly at some point address how you started running on a treadmill when you were at your heaviest. I want to run, but I’m just scared to try at 250 pounds, but obviously there were others at the ranch heavier than that who were able to run. What speed did you initially start out running at and for how long were you able to do it? Thanks! Penny

  25. Ariel Elizabeth says:

    Courtney, this video was inspiring&encouraging. For me going through depression, seeing a lifting message like this. Words can’t explain how much better I feel. I am beautiful & I shouldn’t let others define that for me. I love being unique. I know this & sometimes i forget.Thank you so much for posting! Xxoo

  26. Wow Courtney, this video is really great to listen too. I know from the minute I watched you on the ranch that I loved you because you were always looking at the glass half full and not half empty(me). I can’t wait for the next blog to come out and hear more of the questions because I hope they can help me get on my journey.
    Love, Catherine

  27. Danielle says:

    Awesome awesome awesome! What you said about loving yourself made me tear up but it really hit home. I just recently had a serious conversation with my husband in which he said that he feels the reason I have trouble making friends is because I back off as soon as someone tries to get to know me and that even when it comes to him I put a wall around myself. He said that our marriage lacks a connection that he wants because I don’t allow him to love me as much as he does. That because I don’t love myself I can’t accept or understand how much he loves me.

    And he’s right. I feel like I don’t deserve how much he loves me or that he really doesn’t because how on earth could someone love me that much. I just had no clue until recently that he had keyed in on these emotions and that it hurts him. So, these issues aren’t only for those looking for love. It even gets those of us who have already found it.

    On the up side I’ve lost 10lbs so far and have made major improvements with my daily activity level! Zumba is amazing as well as hiking and a shower after a long hard workout feels better than any food I’ve ever had! :-) You are an inspiration to so many people and it has been great to watch you since BL11 first aired.

    Quick question – Are there any other former BL contestants who are doing public blogs? I’d love to read others if they are out there!

  28. You are wise beyond your years. I don’t know if I could put it more plain than that. Thank you for inspiring so many of us and reminding us to love ourselves. I’m now down 26.6 pounds ^^

  29. Tina Hutchings says:

    You are truely inspiring. I just got serious with my new lifestyle of health this week. ( not going to say diet because that is not what this is) Taking small steps to change. This month is focused on eating and drinking healthier. Starting walking and next month going to join local gym. I am setting mini rewards along the way that have nothing to do with food like when I’m down thirty pounds I’m going horseback riding for first time and so on. I really hope this works for me and seeing people like you and your mom truely keeps me going. Thanks so much.

  30. Courtney you are awesome! You are such a trooper. I must admit I still havent gotten off of my 389 pound behind and started any kind of anything. I am just kind of stuck mentally. I lost 89 pounds a couple of years ago, and went from 414 to 325 now I am back up to 389 ( I quit smoking roughly 2 years ago) I am thirty six, and I am scared that when I do lose the weight I will n ot be able to afford the surgeries to make me look right (similar to what you had done) I do want to say that you are an inspiration I just need to find my inner voice and then make my brain listen. So just pray for me and I will pray for you! You are amazing, and I bawled like a baby when you were voted off BL (LOL) seriously I did. Keep up the great work!

  31. Donna Capener says:

    Courtney, me again!
    So, I just sat here and bawled threw the whole 9 minutes of your video… I am pretty sure that you were speaking to me directly.. lol. What a gift God has given you Court, to bless others, motivate others, and save other people. When I began to watch you this past season on BL, I was at a low point in my life… there have been lots… anyways, I had been self mutilating and beating myself up… but watching you, I found hope. I am overweight, but that is not my struggle. My struggle is against self confidence, and self image. But…. you video, man alive! Thank you again for blessing me and so many others. Sending you huge hugs and loads of prayers.
    Here is a verse that God gave me for you today: It’s my favorite one
    Matthew 5:16 — Let your light shine before all men, that they may see your good deeds, and praise your Father in Heaven.
    Love you oodles
    Donna C

  32. I really needed this blog for this week. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and I know that I am not allowing him to love me as much as he does because of me not loving myself as much as I should. I just get so frustrated when I workout and I want results NOW, but I need to know that it does take a couple goals and steps to get there but I will get there! I am already making post it notes about good things about myself and putting them on my mirror so I see them first during the day! Thank you so much Courtney….I truly needed this this week!!!

  33. So glad I saw this I needed it thank you so much Courtney! Everyone around me says I have so much confidence… I hide hating my body with being the funny one and just smiling but I started to really love me when I lost around 24 lbs but then gained again because I did not do it the healthy way and I hated myself for thinking that I put all that time and energy just to gain it all back!

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